Oops, I forgot to post my last entry when I finished it, so today brings two. (I'm currently trying to grade papers..and this is a much better distraction.)
It's 2014! Wooohooo! The last year brought about a lot of change to my life--some of it heartbreaking, some of it mediocre, and some of it life-changing. I also saw a lot of changes to my Facebook friends--it seems like SOOOO many got engaged or married.
Pre-married, when I used to see that, I would start to feel alone. I'll be honest, I thought I was the ONLY single person in the world. At times, if I was close to the person, I may have even judged a smidgeon and thought, "That's awful fast. Do you even know each other?" However, it never stopped me from living my life and from accomplishing what I wanted. Most people get lonely, and when that happens Facebook can be terrible in rubbing it in. However, loneliness or fear of being the only single person is not a justifiable reason for assuming everyone getting married is doing so out of desperation or fear of being alone. I'm sure some people do that, and I'm sure it's annoying to see it all the time.
However, when you got your puppy, did you post about it on Facebook? Or your fish or your cat or your new nephew or niece? Yes, you did. I know this because I have SOOO many pictures of dogs, cats, and babies. When you looked good one day did you take a picture of yourself and put it up? You sure did. So, why is it wrong that when someone gets engaged, looks good in a picture with their significant other, or changes their life and says, "I do," that they post about it? It's not, actually. You just don't want to deal with the real issue: yourself, your insecurities, your fears, or your feelings of loss (once everyone is married, who will I hang out with? That's hard..Trust me, I know.) But to be honest, when you post those feelings out loud or put up statuses like "Single is so great. Here is an article about how your marriage will fail because you rushed it/are too young, etc.", it kind of makes you look...not so great to be polite.
If someone rushed their marriage and it does end, then I hope that you will be there to comfort them, and to remind them of how GREAT single life is. Not there to condemn them or tell them "I told you so." I also hope that when you find the greatest love of your life, you suddenly realize why people make a decision to commit their life to one person. I EVEN *gasp* hope YOU POST ABOUT IT!
I also hope that whether you are single or married, you are doing things for YOU to make YOU happy. I hope you have goals, and dreams. I hope you accomplish them. I also hope that you practice loving others, and sacrificing, and being less selfish. And, last, I hope you're not relying on anyone to bring you that happiness.
So here's my challenge, instead of posting about how great single life is, or posts seeded with jealousy/insecurities, go DO something! Prove it. And I'll prove that marriage is AMAZING, and that I'm still DOING something, too. Then, we'll hang out, have coffee, and share our adventures.
Lesson Learned,
Mrs. B.
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